Of course, there is always a Black Sheep in any fraternity. Take Chopin, my favorite composer. He was a late riser and composed in the afternoons, relying on bursts of creativity. While he did not follow a rigid schedule, he came up with many of his ideas while walking. It was said that once an idea was in Chopin’s head, he worked like a maniac, sometimes shutting himself off in a room for entire days. Perhaps that contributed to his death at the age of 39.
Fruitful walks were a common element amongst the best-known composers and authors in history. But there is one secret weapon of productivity that is still more important than taking an afternoon stroll outside.
This tool, one that is available to everyone, is called Magic Time. It is the period during the day when you are three to five times more productive, effective, and focused than at any other point in the day.
If you don’t like the way some people live their lives, then make a decision not to follow in their footsteps.
Look at your watch now. Watch how the seconds hand ticks, it moves clockwise and never anti-clockwise. Tick-tock-tick-tock, that’s the sound of our lives draining away.
You’ll never get it back. The 5 seconds that you took to read the paragraph above? You’re not getting that back either.
The fight for freedom has always been about claiming back your one most important entity – TIME.
Again, what’s the point of retiring at 65? So that you can finally start spending time loving your 65 year-old wife and be the richest man in the retirement home?
Something is really wrong with the traditional career path, and I’m here to find a way out.
1. After marrying, men assume a new identity. Marriage is one of the last “rite[s] of passage into manhood” remaining in our society, argues sociologist Steven Nock in Marriage in Men’s Lives. He found that marriage engenders an ethic of familial responsibility among men, as well as a new-found sense of meaning and status in the world. Marriage also encourages men to take their role as providers seriously.
2. Married men are motivated to maximize their income. For many men, this responsibility ethic translates into a different orientation toward work, more hours, and more strategic work choices. Sociologist Elizabeth Gorman finds that married men are more likely to value higher-paying jobs than their single peers.
This is partly why studies find that men increase their work hours after marrying and reduce their hours after divorcing. It’s also why married men are less likely to quit a current job without finding a new job. Indeed, they are also less likely to be fired than their single peers.
Thank goodness it’s Friday, right?! Well, maybe not. Our culture has created a veritable mythology around each day of the week, all geared towards reaching the almighty weekend. The underlying message is that none of us enjoys what we do Monday through Friday and so of course we all have the Monday blues and are thankful that Wednesday is hump day and are ecstatic by the time old Friday finally rolls around. And then we repeat that cycle ad infinitum. Or at least, until we retire.
If you’re fresh out of school without much experience, you’ll probably have to take an entry-level job — but that doesn’t mean you have to stay in that position forever. Even when you’re starting at the bottom of the pack, you may have the opportunity to work your way up if you’re able to prove your work ethic and master some of the most important skills related to your field.
Of course, some entry level jobs make it easier to move up through the ranks than others – either because they work as a natural stepping stone towards a more lucrative career or because there are simply more opportunities ahead of them.
We’ve often recommended getting a workout buddy to keep yourself motivated at the gym, and work is no different. Especially if you feel like you’re getting a lot of flak from others about your performance, it can help to have someone tell you you’re awesome and keep you feeling good (plus it helps to have someone to commiserate with on the bad stuff—half your office friends are probably going through the exact same stuff you are).
When times are tough, you must steel your resolve. If you feel as though you’re on thin ice, keep your eyes on the next 30 days. Much like how you would develop a skill, treat this trying experience like practise for your persistence and optimism. As author Pat Williams highlights in How to Be Like Walt, Disney once said, “I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know that life is a complex matter.”
Sometimes the best advice is to just quit. Seriously—we mention it in just about every career article because it should always be an option. One of the best things you can do at any job is walk in every day knowing they need you more than you need them. If the scale tips in the opposite direction, do something about it or start looking. Don’t get stuck in a position where you’re never confident you can find new work quickly. Just being in that power position is enough to get you through a lot of the crap we all slog through at any job.
“I won’t kid you. This stuff was scary. I had to train myself to get away, to actively practice this work-life balance thing. And I had to believe it would all work out.”
We’ve all had this happen to us. We get that one person at work that get’s under our skin and we don’t know why. Check out the following article for a possible reason as to why that is.